Dirty Talk Examples: 60 Things to Say in Bed, Before, and by Text

The best dirty talk examples are the ones that are true: say what you see, what you feel and what you want, in words one notch bolder than you would use at the dinner table. "You feel so good" is dirty talk. So is "do not stop". You do not need a script or a special voice, just a handful of lines you have already thought about, so your mouth has somewhere to go when your head goes blank.

This guide gives you 60 of them, sorted from barely dirty to very direct, plus 12 sexting examples for the hours before you are in the same room, and a short plan for tonight if you have never said a word in bed. Pick the register that fits the two of you and skip the rest. Most couples live in the first two groups and never need the others.

How to Talk Dirty Without Cringing: Four Rules

Dirty talk is awkward for the same reason dancing is awkward: you are watching yourself do it. The fix is the same too. Put your attention on your partner instead of on your performance and the self-consciousness has nowhere to sit.

The other thing to know is that your partner does not hear what you hear. You hear an unsure voice saying something slightly silly. They hear someone who wants them enough to say so out loud. That gap is why lines that sound cringey in your head usually land fine in the room.

• Say what is true. Describe what you see, what you feel, or what you want. "I love how your back looks right now" needs no acting because it is a report, not a performance.
• Start with the mildest register. A compliment and a "do not stop" tonight. Explicit words next week, if the mild ones landed. Nobody was ever turned off by a partner who started too gently.
• Match your partner's words. Use the words they use for bodies and acts, not the words you think you are supposed to use. If they say "fuck", you can. If they never do, do not start there.
• Silence after a line is fine. You said it, it landed, nobody owes a reply. Waiting for one is what makes a line feel like a failed joke. Say it and go back to what you were doing.

Dirty Talk Examples by Level

Numbered so you can mention a line to your partner afterwards ("I liked 14") without saying it twice. The words in parentheses say when a line tends to land.

Warm: things to say that are barely dirty

1. "I have been thinking about you all day." (by text at lunch, or as you walk in)
2. "Come here. I want to kiss you properly." ("properly" does all the work)
3. "I keep looking at your mouth." (pick one specific body part; specific lands ten times harder than "you are hot")
4. "You have no idea what you do to me in that shirt." (while they are still dressed)
5. "I noticed something about you today and I am not going to tell you what it was." (the denied compliment; they will ask, and you hold out until bed)
6. "When we get home, I am taking that off you. Slowly." (whispered in public, then act normal all evening)
7. "Tell me what you want tonight. Anything." (an invitation, not a test)
8. "I love the sound you just made." (quietly, right after it)
9. "Lie back. I want to look at you for a minute." (then actually look, without touching)
10. "You feel so good." (the simplest line on this page and the one most people never say out loud)
11. "I have wanted this since this morning."
12. "Stay exactly like that." (praise and an instruction in four words)

Hot: things to say in bed

13. "I am going to kiss every inch of you before I touch you anywhere else." (telling them what you are about to do, then doing it)
14. "Slower. Right there. Do not move." (asking for exactly what you want)
15. "Do you feel what you are doing to me?" (narrating your own body)
16. "I love how wet you are." or "I love how hard you are." (telling them how they feel to you; use the version that fits)
17. "Do not stop. Please do not stop." (the "please" turns a command into a confession)
18. "Put your hands here. Now hold on."
19. "I want to hear you. Louder." (for the partner who goes quiet; permission is often all they needed)
20. "I am going to take my time with you tonight." (then slow down)
21. "Tell me when you are close." (practical and hot at once)
22. "That. Exactly that. Again." (narrating what they are doing right, in real time)
23. "I can feel you getting close."
24. "Look at me while I do this."
25. "I could do this to you all night."
26. "I want you inside me." or "I want to be inside you." (just before, not during)
27. "Say my name." (then do nothing until they do)
28. "Come for me." (the most used line in the genre: it gives permission and asks at once)

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Explicit: for couples who like it direct

These use the direct words. Check which words your partner likes first (rule three), and leave out anything that puts your partner down unless you have both asked for exactly that. Direct is not the same as degrading.

29. "I want your cock in my mouth." or "I want my mouth on your pussy." (say the word once, plainly, and watch what it does)
30. "Fuck me harder." (short, clear, impossible to misread)
31. "Spread your legs for me." (an instruction; wait until they do)
32. "I am going to make you come so hard you forget your own name."
33. "Your pussy feels incredible." or "Your cock feels incredible." (the explicit version of line 10)
34. "Get on your knees." (quietly is hotter than loudly)
35. "Beg for it." (only if begging is something you have both tried and liked)
36. "I want to watch you touch yourself while I tell you what to do." (you narrate, they may only do what you say)
37. "Tell me how badly you want to be fucked." (invites them to talk back)
38. "You are going to take everything I give you tonight." (a promise about the whole evening)
39. "I love watching you fuck me." (narrating what you see; lights on helps)
40. "I am going to fuck you until you cannot stand." (after this the words are not the point anymore)

Taking charge: dominant lines

Agree a stop word before any of these, as you would for beginner BDSM: "no" as a line in a scene does not mean no, so you need a word that does. Afterwards, a few minutes of ordinary closeness and a quick "what did you like?" makes the next time better.

41. "You do not get to finish until I say so." (the classic; follow through, which is the hard part)
42. "Hands above your head. Keep them there." (if a hand drops, start again)
43. "Ask me nicely." (and wait for it)
44. "Count them." (for spanking, after agreeing a number; stay on the fleshy areas, never the spine, kidneys or joints)
45. "Good. That is exactly what I wanted." (praise is dominance too, and for many people it is the whole kink)
46. "Tonight you do what I tell you. Say yes if you want that."
47. "Do not make a sound."
48. "Eyes on me." (whenever they drift)
49. "Stop. Wait. Now." (controlling the pace is the simplest way to be in charge)
50. "You are mine tonight, and I am going to take my time." (possessive and slow)

Giving in: submissive lines

51. "Tell me what to do." (a request, not a surrender)
52. "Please. May I?" (for something you would normally just do)
53. "I am yours tonight. Do what you want with me." (said once, early, and meant)
54. "I will be good. I promise." (only works if your partner set a rule)
55. "Use me however you want." (strong; agree the limits before the scene, not during)
56. "Please let me come."
57. "Thank you." (after an instruction followed or a spank taken)
58. "I will do anything you say."
59. "I am so close. Please. Can I?" (the submissive version of line 21)
60. "Yes. Whatever you want. Yes."

Sexting Examples: Dirty Talk by Text

Text is different in one way that matters: there is no tone of voice, so irony dies and literal wins. Write what you mean and assume it will be read in a meeting. Photos need an explicit yes from both of you before anyone sends one, and a private chat for couples rather than the app you use for the family group. The twelve below run through one day, escalating.

Morning

1. "Woke up thinking about your mouth. That is all. Have a good day."
2. "You looked ridiculous in that towel this morning. I mean that as the highest compliment."
3. "Reminder for tonight. You know the one." (vague on purpose; they spend the day guessing)
4. "I keep replaying last Saturday. The second part." (a shared memory does the work)

Afternoon at work

5. "What are you wearing under that? Do not answer yet. Think about it for an hour." (a question with a delay built in)
6. "I am in a meeting and I have not heard a word of it. Your fault."
7. "Tonight I want you on top. Reply with one word if that works for you." (a plan plus a tiny yes to give)
8. "Send me a thirty-second voice note about what you want tonight. I will listen in the car."

The hour before you are home

9. "Twenty minutes away. Be in bed when I get there."
10. "Leaving now. Do not touch yourself. That is my job." (a rule for the next hour)
11. "I am going to walk in, drop my bag, and not say a word for ten minutes." (then do it)
12. "Door. Now." (two words, from the driveway)

Dirty Talk for Beginners: Where to Start Tonight

Do not start with the explicit group. Pick two lines from the Warm list: one to say before anything happens (line 2 or line 6 are the easiest) and one to say during (line 10 or line 12). Say them tonight. That is the whole assignment.

Afterwards, while you are still lying there, ask one question: "Which one did you like?" Their answer tells you which direction to go, and it quietly tells them you plan to do this again. Next time, add one line from the Hot group. One level at a time, you reach your natural ceiling in a few weeks without a single cringe.

What If It Does Not Land

• Laughing is fine. One of you giggles, you both giggle, you carry on. Laughter in bed is two people who are comfortable, not a failure.
• Go back a level. If an explicit line lands flat, drop to Hot for the rest of the night. Nobody minds being told they feel good.
• Ask "which words do you want me to use?" Outside the bedroom, ideally. Most couples have never asked and are surprised how specific the answer is.
• Agree on the words you both hate. Everyone has two or three that kill the mood instantly. Name them once, laugh about them, and they never come up again.

Finding Out What Your Partner Wants to Hear

The hard part of dirty talk is not the saying; it is not knowing whether your partner wants the Warm version or the Explicit one. That is the problem Couplet, our sex app for couples, was built for. Its library of 1,500+ ideas includes a whole strand of talk ideas, from whispering one thing you find sexy into your partner's ear, through sexting ladders that escalate over a work day, to narrating everything you are doing for five minutes straight. You each swipe on your own phone, only the ideas you both said yes to are revealed, and a no is never shown. If "talk dirty during sex" comes back as a match, you have your answer.

There is also a private chat for the two of you inside the app, and every matched idea gives you a first line, which solves the other hard part of sexting: the blank message box. Free for both partners.

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Frequently Asked Questions

What are some dirty talk examples?

The easiest dirty talk examples say what is true: that you have been thinking about your partner all day, that they feel good, that you do not want them to stop, or exactly what you want next. From there you get more direct: narrating what you are doing, telling them how they feel to you, or giving instructions. This post lists 60 lines sorted from warm to explicit, plus 12 sexting examples.

How do I start talking dirty to my partner?

Start with the mildest register: a specific compliment before sex and one short line during it, such as telling them they feel good or asking them not to stop. Describe what is actually happening rather than performing a script, use the words your partner uses, and ask afterwards which line they liked. Build one level at a time.

What should I say in bed if I feel awkward?

Say something true and short. You feel so good, do not stop, right there, slower, I love that sound: all of these are dirty talk, none of them need a special voice, and none of them need a reply. Silence after a line is fine. Awkwardness comes from watching yourself, so put your attention on your partner instead.

What are good sexting examples for couples?

Good sexting escalates over the day: a morning message that says you are thinking about them, an afternoon message that asks a question they have to sit with, and a message an hour before you are home that says exactly what will happen when you walk in. Text has no tone of voice, so be literal, and never send or ask for photos without an explicit yes first.

Is it normal to find dirty talk cringey?

Yes, almost everyone does at first, because you hear your own unsure voice while your partner hears someone who wants them enough to say so. Laughing is fine. If a line does not land, drop back a level, ask which words your partner wants you to use, and agree on the words you both hate. Couplet lets you both swipe privately on dirty talk and sexting ideas, so you find out what they want to hear before you say it.