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Yes, No, Maybe List for Couples

A yes, no, maybe list is the simplest tool there is for talking about intimacy without the awkward conversation. It is a list of activities and scenarios, and for each one you mark Yes (I want to try this), No (not for me), or Maybe (curious, under the right circumstances).

Here is how couples use it: fill it in separately, each in your own time, without peeking at the other's answers. Then compare, and only discuss the items you both marked Yes or Maybe. Anything either of you marked No simply stays off the table, no explanation needed. That one rule is what makes the whole exercise feel safe instead of scary. And the maybes? Those are usually where the best conversations start.

The interactive list below saves your answers in your browser and lets you send your partner a private link so you can compare. Start anywhere, skip anything, change your mind any time.

🔒 100% private: your answers stay on your device. Nothing is uploaded.

Your partner answered - fill in yours to compare 💌

Their answer for each item is revealed only after you pick yours, so you will not be influenced. Answer everything to see your matches: the items you both said Yes or Maybe to.

Romance & Affection

The warm-up. Easy ones to get you talking.

  1. A long cuddle session with no phones
  2. Kissing slowly, just to kiss
  3. Holding hands and being affectionate in public
  4. Slow dancing together at home
  5. Leaving each other little love notes
  6. Giving a massage with no expectations
  7. Taking a bath or shower together
  8. Telling each other what you find attractive about the other

Setting the Mood

Building anticipation before anything happens.

  1. A candlelit evening at home
  2. A playlist made just for the two of you
  3. Wearing lingerie or dressing up for each other
  4. A slow, teasing undressing
  5. A date night that ends in the bedroom
  6. Sending a flirty text during the workday
  7. Massage oils and dimmed lights
  8. A lazy weekend morning with no alarms set

Playful

Games, dares, and not taking it too seriously.

  1. A game of truth or dare, adults edition
  2. Flirty dice or card games
  3. A striptease for your partner
  4. A bet where the winner plans the evening
  5. Guessing touches while wearing a blindfold
  6. Whipped cream or chocolate sauce involved
  7. Teasing each other and drawing things out
  8. Talking flirty, keeping it light

Adventurous

Stepping a little outside the routine.

  1. Being intimate somewhere new in the house
  2. Booking a hotel night just for the two of you
  3. Making out in the car like teenagers
  4. A spontaneous quickie
  5. Trying a brand new position
  6. Skinny dipping together
  7. A whole Sunday spent in bed
  8. Somewhere with a small chance of being heard

Fantasy & Roleplay

Imagination, characters, and stories.

  1. Sharing a fantasy out loud
  2. Role play: strangers meeting at a bar
  3. Dressing up in costume
  4. Reading an erotic story together
  5. Watching a steamy movie scene together
  6. Describing a dream scenario in detail
  7. Pretending to meet for the very first time
  8. Acting out a scene you both agree on beforehand

Power & Sensation

Trust, control, and the senses. Go at your own pace.

  1. Trying a blindfold
  2. Light spanking
  3. A feather or an ice cube on skin
  4. Gentle hair pulling
  5. Soft restraints, like a silk tie
  6. Taking turns being the one in charge
  7. Giving instructions and having your partner follow them
  8. A safeword and a debrief afterwards

Your matches 💞

These are the items you both answered Yes or Maybe to. Everything else stays private.

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Frequently asked questions

What is a yes no maybe list?

It is a checklist of intimate activities and scenarios where each partner marks every item as yes, no, or maybe. It turns a nerve-wracking conversation into a simple, low-pressure exercise and shows you exactly where your interests overlap.

How do couples use a yes no maybe list?

Fill it in separately, then compare. Only discuss the items where you both said yes or maybe. A no from either of you means the item is off the table, no questions asked. The maybes are often the most interesting part: they are invitations to talk.

Is this list private?

Yes. Everything stays on your device. Your answers are saved in your own browser and nothing is uploaded to any server. The share link encodes your answers inside the link itself, so only the person you send it to can see them.

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